While speaking to a friend, I pondered this question a lot. Being one who thinks about questions from many stand points, and on many levels, I am having trouble understanding how people can wait for a significant other for so long, wasting away so much of their life? I respect the men and women in our armed forces to the highest degree, and respect everyone involved in their lives, dont get me wrong about that. But when looking at the situation from the lovers who are waiting at home; the ones that may not neccessarily be married to them; the ones that are boyfriend/girlfriend, close friends, or just an affair; how can they waste away that much of their life waiting for someone?
When speaking with her, she told me that they had recently broken up. After he broke it off, he acted like a complete jerk. Yet she forgives him when all he says is sorry. Why is it that we think with our heart instead of our minds. Does she not understand how she felt just a few days ago, before he called to apologize? Why does she give in so easily to what he says? Oh he says he'll change, but yet he blames it on her? It was her fault. I can see jealousy coming from both sides of the relationship. The soldier may think there is something going on back home, or the one back home may be worried about the soldier and their comrads. I just fear that she will get her heart broken, and this time it will be for good. I fear that while believing every feeling she has is true and correct, she will actually hurt herself. She is a great girl, and always will be, but I just dont understand how she can go on belieiving that what he says is what he will do. If he agrees that he will change, but says it was her fault, then why should he need to change? she says i dont know all of the story, and im sure i dont, but from the evidence presented, it seems to me that this guy has got her under her wing, and there is no way that she can fly away.
He recently told her who she could and could not hang out with. She admits that she had some party pictures with some guys and admits they were not appropriate, but does that mean she has to stop hanging out with those people for parties just because he says so? And the best part of this story, is that he tells her not to party with those guys, but yet he turns around and cant talk to her tonite because he is out partying as we spoke. Rediculous? To the Utmost I say. She can do better, and to anyone reading this, if the man or the woman wants you to change, then he or she does not appreciate you as you are, and will likely be trying to change you all their life, to be the person they want you to be. Why cant we love each other for who we are? We all make mistakes, its only human, so why cant we accept that and move on with our lives? It all comes down to one word... TURST
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Monday, May 18, 2009
Love and the like
In love there are so many aspects. It is important to look at each before pursing why it is that we feel the way we do. The main four types of love I would like to talk about are love they neighbor, love thy family, love they lover, and love they self. These four parts of love are needed in everyday life to make this world a better place. As it is said in the bible, "Love each other, as I have loved you." (John 13:34)
When looking at the first form of love, love thy neighbor, it is important to watch out for the feelings that lie in the middle. Loving thy neighbor is like loving your friends AND your enimies. It is extremely hard for human beings to grasp the concept of loving our enemies. Many of us put our feelings in the way of that. Many of us don't believe that God is talking to us when he says love thine enemy. Yet, for those that are able to do so, or have already been doing so, it is important to continue to work on it. I believe this is one thing that may not be a reaction for most anyone. For example, if some one says a hurtful thing, most do not automatically say thjey love that person. Most are willing to say they are hurt or distrought, but not "I love you." It is important to loook at this aspect of our lives with the utmost superiority. God loves us all, even when we sin, so why is it that we find it so hard to love each other?
The second important part of love to look at is love thy family. It is important to look at this idea because even though many of us do, whether our parents are together or not, whether our siblings are close or not; it can be so easy to take this love for granted. For me, this love has been there ever since I can remember, which is why it seems so easy to take it for granted. We as humans tend to take things for granted when they are readily or always available. Yet, we should grow more aware as an individual and as a whole family that there are no guarantees in the game of life. We are not sure what God has in store for us, so we do not know what kind of trouble there may be ahead. So, as the old saying goes, we must live everyday as it were our last. With this, it is more probable that we will be more focused on loving our family, perhaps talking to them more, becuase there are so many things we want to tell them. If our family is so important, which it seems to be, then why do we continually take that love for granted?
The third type of love is the love of thine spouse or lover. As briefly as possible, it is important to vocer this extremely heart wrenching form of love. There have been many hear breaks in the past, from man to woman, man to man, woman to man, and woman to woman. (Homosexual beliefs play no part here.) It is important to understand that God has a purpose for all of us. As unfortunate as it may seem, not everyone is destined to be loved as a spouse. Many find trouble in this and see it as a burden, but to truly understand God, one must realize how he works. he knows how we feel, he knows what we think, but that does not mean he can stop us or control us from doing so. He gave us free will to let us make our own choices, sinning just happens, because none of us are perfect. But to really love a spouse, I would think that one would want to feel that love even more in treturn. I have never been married, I have never been in love (although I have contemplated it), but I do think that love is pretty universal (in its basic principles), with no boundries. It makes sense when looking at the human person's psychy that they would want and desire love in return, in order to love whole heartedly. -This form of love has endlesss discussion, and seeing as I will likely write about it in future blogs, I shall end with this- If God put us on the earth to love endlessly, to our friends and foes, our neighbors and relatives, why did he make it so hard to find the one for us to spend the rest of our lives with?
Lastly, it is maybe of the utmost importance to look at the love of thine self. If we are unable to love ourselves, how are we then able to love anyone else? Loving ourself can be extremely difficult. Many find that physical or mental differences in themselves to be flaws that they wish did not exist or they could change. This is an example of someone who needs to ask themselves the question: if God made me this way, then why can't one accept that they truly are beautiful in God's eyes, the creator of life and death? We as a society have created an image that everyone aspires to be or look like or act like. This is a falter in our society, because as we know from scripture, we do not need to change ourselves to be someone else, but accept our differences and love ourselves for what appears both on the in and outside. If we can't love ourselves, how can we love anyone else?
When looking at the first form of love, love thy neighbor, it is important to watch out for the feelings that lie in the middle. Loving thy neighbor is like loving your friends AND your enimies. It is extremely hard for human beings to grasp the concept of loving our enemies. Many of us put our feelings in the way of that. Many of us don't believe that God is talking to us when he says love thine enemy. Yet, for those that are able to do so, or have already been doing so, it is important to continue to work on it. I believe this is one thing that may not be a reaction for most anyone. For example, if some one says a hurtful thing, most do not automatically say thjey love that person. Most are willing to say they are hurt or distrought, but not "I love you." It is important to loook at this aspect of our lives with the utmost superiority. God loves us all, even when we sin, so why is it that we find it so hard to love each other?
The second important part of love to look at is love thy family. It is important to look at this idea because even though many of us do, whether our parents are together or not, whether our siblings are close or not; it can be so easy to take this love for granted. For me, this love has been there ever since I can remember, which is why it seems so easy to take it for granted. We as humans tend to take things for granted when they are readily or always available. Yet, we should grow more aware as an individual and as a whole family that there are no guarantees in the game of life. We are not sure what God has in store for us, so we do not know what kind of trouble there may be ahead. So, as the old saying goes, we must live everyday as it were our last. With this, it is more probable that we will be more focused on loving our family, perhaps talking to them more, becuase there are so many things we want to tell them. If our family is so important, which it seems to be, then why do we continually take that love for granted?
The third type of love is the love of thine spouse or lover. As briefly as possible, it is important to vocer this extremely heart wrenching form of love. There have been many hear breaks in the past, from man to woman, man to man, woman to man, and woman to woman. (Homosexual beliefs play no part here.) It is important to understand that God has a purpose for all of us. As unfortunate as it may seem, not everyone is destined to be loved as a spouse. Many find trouble in this and see it as a burden, but to truly understand God, one must realize how he works. he knows how we feel, he knows what we think, but that does not mean he can stop us or control us from doing so. He gave us free will to let us make our own choices, sinning just happens, because none of us are perfect. But to really love a spouse, I would think that one would want to feel that love even more in treturn. I have never been married, I have never been in love (although I have contemplated it), but I do think that love is pretty universal (in its basic principles), with no boundries. It makes sense when looking at the human person's psychy that they would want and desire love in return, in order to love whole heartedly. -This form of love has endlesss discussion, and seeing as I will likely write about it in future blogs, I shall end with this- If God put us on the earth to love endlessly, to our friends and foes, our neighbors and relatives, why did he make it so hard to find the one for us to spend the rest of our lives with?
Lastly, it is maybe of the utmost importance to look at the love of thine self. If we are unable to love ourselves, how are we then able to love anyone else? Loving ourself can be extremely difficult. Many find that physical or mental differences in themselves to be flaws that they wish did not exist or they could change. This is an example of someone who needs to ask themselves the question: if God made me this way, then why can't one accept that they truly are beautiful in God's eyes, the creator of life and death? We as a society have created an image that everyone aspires to be or look like or act like. This is a falter in our society, because as we know from scripture, we do not need to change ourselves to be someone else, but accept our differences and love ourselves for what appears both on the in and outside. If we can't love ourselves, how can we love anyone else?
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Good News!!
Hello all. It has been a few days, but I have really had a life changing few days. I have been working the new job, may have just gotten another job (gotta call him back tomorrow), and I have met the most amazing girl in the entire world!
As for the job, I begin my training with the web system that we use so I will be able to get more tasks given to me, and i will know more of what I am doing. Still, I am super excited and cant wait to go on 40hrs a week.
As for the second job, Im jus prayin about that. There isnt much left to say about this one.
Finally, the new girl is amazing. I havent been this excited about a girl in a long long time. She is everything I have been looking for and more. I just met her on friday and ever since then i cant go an hour without thinking about her. She is amazing, and I know what lust feels like, and I have full belief that there is no lust in this at all. The biggest disappointment I have though is that she is a graduating senior, graduating in 11 days to be exact, and then she is moving back home - 2 1/2 hrs away. She has grown on me like the hair on my face, constantly there and lookin better everyday. (stupid coorilation, I know haha). I am just praying that I get to see her a few times this sumer and that we can make things work out. I have always said, if its meant to be, its meant to be, but if its not, there is no reason to force it.
The best part about her is that everyday I have felt like I am in a daze. I am motivated so much to do my work so I am able to be with her in the evenings. She is a great influence on me, and we have only known each other for 5 days, imagine what she could help me accomplish in a month?? 6 months?? a year?? (I dont want to jinx this as to how long it will last, but Im praying!) :)
Its amazing that a week ago today, I almost gave up on talking to girls in general. I have been a helpless romantic and this here has been the best reason to come out of that feeling. Every day, being able to look into her eyes and know that she is putting as much into the relationship as I am, just makes it all the better feeling. It just has been so long since my last serious relationship and thus, I have been able to learn what the dos and donts are in order to have a long lasting successful relationship. I just hope it works out! :)
All smiles, All day! Thats my newest personal slogan!
As for the job, I begin my training with the web system that we use so I will be able to get more tasks given to me, and i will know more of what I am doing. Still, I am super excited and cant wait to go on 40hrs a week.
As for the second job, Im jus prayin about that. There isnt much left to say about this one.
Finally, the new girl is amazing. I havent been this excited about a girl in a long long time. She is everything I have been looking for and more. I just met her on friday and ever since then i cant go an hour without thinking about her. She is amazing, and I know what lust feels like, and I have full belief that there is no lust in this at all. The biggest disappointment I have though is that she is a graduating senior, graduating in 11 days to be exact, and then she is moving back home - 2 1/2 hrs away. She has grown on me like the hair on my face, constantly there and lookin better everyday. (stupid coorilation, I know haha). I am just praying that I get to see her a few times this sumer and that we can make things work out. I have always said, if its meant to be, its meant to be, but if its not, there is no reason to force it.
The best part about her is that everyday I have felt like I am in a daze. I am motivated so much to do my work so I am able to be with her in the evenings. She is a great influence on me, and we have only known each other for 5 days, imagine what she could help me accomplish in a month?? 6 months?? a year?? (I dont want to jinx this as to how long it will last, but Im praying!) :)
Its amazing that a week ago today, I almost gave up on talking to girls in general. I have been a helpless romantic and this here has been the best reason to come out of that feeling. Every day, being able to look into her eyes and know that she is putting as much into the relationship as I am, just makes it all the better feeling. It just has been so long since my last serious relationship and thus, I have been able to learn what the dos and donts are in order to have a long lasting successful relationship. I just hope it works out! :)
All smiles, All day! Thats my newest personal slogan!
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
The English Language = Repetiton???
Have you ever stopped to think about all the repetition there is in the world? Seriously, it is ridiculous how everything seems to repeat everything else. When I had my job last summer, every morning there was the same talk in the break room, every week was the same as the last, every month the same as the one before.
Lately, I have realized that the English language is so boring. I wish I had taken more classes when I was younger in order to learn more of a foreign language, but anyways. It seems that every book I read is all the same, just a different arrangement of words. I am astonished at the amount of books that have been written, and not only books, but college and high school papers as well. Most of us are required to turn them in online in order to be sure nothing is plagarised, but it almost seems that one day everything will be plagarised, because as far as I'm concerned, there are very few students who use an advanced level of vocabulary, meaning that we actually are using the easiest words to understand in order to write our papers. This being said, I believe that it will be incredibly improbable that our children or maybe our grandchildren will be able to come up with their own ideas in which have not been published.
I look at this as a large problem. I am worried about the future of the English language and the future of the student way of life.
Also, have you ever noticed how when reading a book, it feels like they are saying most of the same things that the other books say to you in other classes, in other fields of study? Is there a solution? To this I dont know. What I do know is that our students do not seem to be challenged enough in the current times, and that if we expect to let our children have it better off than we did, just like our parents wanted for us, then we need to expand our vocabulary and use the words that are out there to our access.
Finally, have you noticed as I have rambled on about this problem that it seems like I continue to say the same thing over and over? I did when re-reading it... Does that not strike u as odd?
ps. Finally started the new job today and stoked to work for this company! :)
Lately, I have realized that the English language is so boring. I wish I had taken more classes when I was younger in order to learn more of a foreign language, but anyways. It seems that every book I read is all the same, just a different arrangement of words. I am astonished at the amount of books that have been written, and not only books, but college and high school papers as well. Most of us are required to turn them in online in order to be sure nothing is plagarised, but it almost seems that one day everything will be plagarised, because as far as I'm concerned, there are very few students who use an advanced level of vocabulary, meaning that we actually are using the easiest words to understand in order to write our papers. This being said, I believe that it will be incredibly improbable that our children or maybe our grandchildren will be able to come up with their own ideas in which have not been published.
I look at this as a large problem. I am worried about the future of the English language and the future of the student way of life.
Also, have you ever noticed how when reading a book, it feels like they are saying most of the same things that the other books say to you in other classes, in other fields of study? Is there a solution? To this I dont know. What I do know is that our students do not seem to be challenged enough in the current times, and that if we expect to let our children have it better off than we did, just like our parents wanted for us, then we need to expand our vocabulary and use the words that are out there to our access.
Finally, have you noticed as I have rambled on about this problem that it seems like I continue to say the same thing over and over? I did when re-reading it... Does that not strike u as odd?
ps. Finally started the new job today and stoked to work for this company! :)
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Questions about HIM
So as I was sitting in church today, my ADD kicked in.. I looked up at the cross and wondered what the exact physical attributes of God were? Was God 6'6'', 180 lbs, caucasian man, with blond curly locks, eyes as blue as the ocean, size 12 in sandals, etc, etc???? That thought made me go on to think, so I am physically larger than God was, but God is actually bigger than any one or anything in the world.
Next, I looked at the congregation and wondered, "Even though some believe there is no God, it is a pretty amazing idea by someone. So, how can there not be at least some form of higher being?" After all of the research that has been done, it is amazing to know that still, no one has made enough of a difference to stop hundreds of thousands of people from believing.
So, in my religious journey, the facts become harder to overlook. I believe a lot of things that are taught about God in general, but there is something about the fact that I must see things to believe them, and I have been told so many times how unfortunate that is, but how common it is as well. It is hard to overlook everything that has gone on with God, and it is hard to believer there is no God.
http://www.ewtn.com/series/2006/fall2006/Finding_God.jpg
So I have figured out that I believe there is no way there is no God, but it seems incredibly hard for me to believe that there is. I am a man of logic. Since i know there must be a God, I should be able to understand that God does exist, yet, I also believe that I need to see something to make it logical. It is a difficult concept to grasp, and even though I know I'm not alone in my questing of faith, it is hard to find those that feel the same without offending anyone (by the way, I am sorry if this does offend you).
So, if I have learned anything today, its that God or some form of higher being must exist, but currently, I am unable to put my whole heart into it.
Next, I looked at the congregation and wondered, "Even though some believe there is no God, it is a pretty amazing idea by someone. So, how can there not be at least some form of higher being?" After all of the research that has been done, it is amazing to know that still, no one has made enough of a difference to stop hundreds of thousands of people from believing.
So, in my religious journey, the facts become harder to overlook. I believe a lot of things that are taught about God in general, but there is something about the fact that I must see things to believe them, and I have been told so many times how unfortunate that is, but how common it is as well. It is hard to overlook everything that has gone on with God, and it is hard to believer there is no God.
http://www.ewtn.com/series/2006/fall2006/Finding_God.jpg
So I have figured out that I believe there is no way there is no God, but it seems incredibly hard for me to believe that there is. I am a man of logic. Since i know there must be a God, I should be able to understand that God does exist, yet, I also believe that I need to see something to make it logical. It is a difficult concept to grasp, and even though I know I'm not alone in my questing of faith, it is hard to find those that feel the same without offending anyone (by the way, I am sorry if this does offend you).
So, if I have learned anything today, its that God or some form of higher being must exist, but currently, I am unable to put my whole heart into it.
Friday, May 1, 2009
First Post!
Welcome to my blog. Thank you for reading.
For the past couple of days I have been in Milwaukee with our schools Advertising and Marketing Association (AMA), where we visited Miller Park (where the Brewers play), Mueller (pronounced as "Miller") Communications, Third-Person Milwaukee Ad Agency, and then toured a marketing museum. It was AMAzing to say the least. I learned a lot of interesting information, and I was most intrigued by the marketing strategy of the Milwaukee Brewers (even though I'm a Cubs fan).
We also stayed at the Hyatt Hotel. Can't even begin to explain how nice that was; the beds had to have been TempurPedic. Best sleep in years. The most absurd part about us staying there, is that by coincidence, BNI (which if I understand correctly is a "club" of marketers who get together and network, to learn more about what each other do) had a conference in the commons area. We were able to meet some of the people and even got a business card (doing our own networking!).
Overall, this weekend was a really great experience, and I look forward to getting a lot more involved with AMA throughout the next few years.
On a side note, prior to leaving for Milwaukee, I was informed that I got a job that I was really excited about. It is a job that is in my choice of career fields (compared to the past, doing city work and the such), and is super exciting. The countdown right now is at 5 days until orientation and training! Bring on the real world; I'm ready!
For the past couple of days I have been in Milwaukee with our schools Advertising and Marketing Association (AMA), where we visited Miller Park (where the Brewers play), Mueller (pronounced as "Miller") Communications, Third-Person Milwaukee Ad Agency, and then toured a marketing museum. It was AMAzing to say the least. I learned a lot of interesting information, and I was most intrigued by the marketing strategy of the Milwaukee Brewers (even though I'm a Cubs fan).
We also stayed at the Hyatt Hotel. Can't even begin to explain how nice that was; the beds had to have been TempurPedic. Best sleep in years. The most absurd part about us staying there, is that by coincidence, BNI (which if I understand correctly is a "club" of marketers who get together and network, to learn more about what each other do) had a conference in the commons area. We were able to meet some of the people and even got a business card (doing our own networking!).
Overall, this weekend was a really great experience, and I look forward to getting a lot more involved with AMA throughout the next few years.
On a side note, prior to leaving for Milwaukee, I was informed that I got a job that I was really excited about. It is a job that is in my choice of career fields (compared to the past, doing city work and the such), and is super exciting. The countdown right now is at 5 days until orientation and training! Bring on the real world; I'm ready!
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